Want to drop a habit? Don’t deprive, replace

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  It’s that time of year when changing habits is on our minds. So here’s what I’m wondering… have you ever try to ‘willpower’ yourself into not doing something? You know, like stopping a not-so-healthy habit? How has that worked for you? Letting go of a ‘bad’ habit is usually easier said than done, isn’t it? Sometimes we feel like it’s a great intention to not get the candy bar at the vending machine during an afternoon slump or to stop staying up late bing-watching Netflix on a weeknight. But actually [...]

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The usefulness of Yay me! moments

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  What went well for you this week? When I work with my coaching clients, that question is an important part of our conversations. Did it take a couple minutes for you to think of something? What if I asked you about what didn’t go so well? Went right to it, didn’t you? That’s why that first question is important. Important to ask first. A coach I once worked with adds a layer to that question that makes it even more powerful… she regularly asked me to connect it back [...]

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My secret about why some resolutions stick & others fizzle out

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  I admit it, I love January and all that new year intention setting energy. I’ve spent plenty of years writing down, in those first weeks, what I want to accomplish in the rest. Strategic plans and lists for the things I want to do, the new habits I want to commit to (again).   Sometimes I found myself riding the wave of a resolution the whole year through. Other resolutions – not so much. Here’s the huge secret I’ve come to realize about what sticks and why… The important [...]

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My New Year Breakthrough

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  I am ready. Well, maybe I’m not. But heck, it’s a new year. And I actually love that new year energy of intention and commitment. So this year, I’ve decided to channel that energy toward something I don’t usually do. I’m going to follow Brian Johnson’s advice and sink into a ‘fire, ready, aim’ approach. When I first heard Brian talk about that concept as he summarized Jason Selk’s book, 10 Minute Toughness, oh boy, did the perfectionist in me bristle uncomfortably. I’m a thinker, a planner. Jumping right [...]

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Welcome! Come, be part of the Pause…

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Would you say you Live from your Center? Does that phrase grab you? What does it mean for you? “Live from your own center” is a quote I heard from Joseph Campbell, amazing writer and teacher of mythology and philosophy. It’s always inspired and intrigued me. A wonderful goal and intention – to be centered, to live from a balanced inner place. But… doesn’t so much in life often seem to pull us off balance? To cause us to act and re-act instead from places of habit or strain? I [...]

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