WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: How to Stop a Bad Habit – Don’t Deprive, Replace

  Ever try to ‘willpower’ yourself into NOT doing something? You know, like stopping a not-so-healthy habit? How has that worked for you? It’s a nice intention, for example, to decide you’re going to stop getting that candy bar at the vending machine during an afternoon slump at work or stop staying up late bing-watching Netflix on a weeknight. But having an intention not to do something is rarely an empowering enough strategy to make a sustainable change. In fact, if the thing you’re trying to change has it’s own momentum, […]

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WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: Feeling your way out of being stuck

  Ever been in a mode where you feel like you are spinning your wheels? life not moving along the way you want it to? I know the feeling. And on this week’s Wellness Tip Wednesday I share how I get myself unstuck. It’s all about recognizing when I’m not feeling how I really want to feel, identifying how do I want to feel, and then choosing to do one small thing that will move me toward feeling that way. Knowing how you want to feel and using that to shift your perspective is […]

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Leveraging yourself as you go along

  I just discovered something about myself. I like structure. It makes me feel capable, confident. I’m laughing a little at that word ‘just’ – how I wrote that I ‘just’ discovered this. I’m no spring chicken. You’d think that would be something that I knew about myself by now. Well, maybe I did know. But I was trying something new. And I forgot what I had learned before. That’s ok. Because re-discovery is useful. Going through the process of learning about yourself is empowering – every time you do […]

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The usefulness of Yay me! moments

  What went well for you this week? When I work with my coaching clients, that question is an important part of our conversations. Did it take a couple minutes for you to think of something? What if I asked you about what didn’t go so well? Went right to it, didn’t you? That’s why that first question is important. Important to ask first. A coach I once worked with adds a layer to that question that makes it even more powerful… she regularly asked me to connect it back […]

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My secret about why some resolutions stick & others fizzle out

  I admit it, I love January and all that new year intention setting energy. I’ve spent plenty of years writing down, in those first weeks, what I want to accomplish in the rest. Strategic plans and lists for the things I want to do, the new habits I want to commit to (again).   Sometimes I found myself riding the wave of a resolution the whole year through. Other resolutions – not so much. Here’s the huge secret I’ve come to realize about what sticks and why… The important […]

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My New Year Breakthrough

  I am ready. Well, maybe I’m not. But heck, it’s a new year. And I actually love that new year energy of intention and commitment. So this year, I’ve decided to channel that energy toward something I don’t usually do. I’m going to follow Brian Johnson’s advice and sink into a ‘fire, ready, aim’ approach. When I first heard Brian talk about that concept as he summarized Jason Selk’s book, 10 Minute Toughness, oh boy, did the perfectionist in me bristle uncomfortably. I’m a thinker, a planner. Jumping right […]

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Want Love and a Healthy Relationship? How you Answer these 3 Questions can be the Key

Ah, to be in a relationship… with someone who is kind to you, with someone who genuinely enjoys your company, a partner in life who is supportive because they believe in you… Sound like something you want? Imagining how good that might make you feel? It does sound like a healthy relationship, doesn’t it? But does it really begin with finding the right person? Consider the possibility that your relationship with yourself is actually the key that determines the health (and longevity) of any committed relationship you want to be […]

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