WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: What to do (and not do) when you’re in pain

  Pain is a phenomena that can stop the hardiest of us in our tracks. It has a way of affecting everything. Sometimes it can feel impossible to focus on anything else in your life when significant pain has got your attention. And when you have pain that is affecting your life like that, it’s also very easy to stay stuck there, and even subconsciously exacerbate it. If you’ve ever had times in your life when pain has caught your breath and kept your attention like that, you know what […]

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WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: To Do List stressing you out? De-stress with the opposite

  Do you have an ever growing To Do list that stresses you out? Life is busy. But the key to managing the stress that comes with it is to build up your resiliency. And resiliency’s main ingredient is your sense of self efficacy – that sensation of believing in yourself and your capacity to accomplish what you set out to. So on this week’s Wellness Tip Wednesday I’m sharing an idea that offers a powerful way to build that self efficacy and resilience with a counterbalance to your never-ending […]

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WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: Need to solve a problem? Why you should start with what IS working

  Have you ever noticed how we humans have a tendency to focus on what’s not going well? It’s said that as human animals, we’re wired to look for problems — that we evolved because we got good at recognizing dangers and threats. But as we’ve continued to evolve, it’s actually our ability to notice what IS working — our willingness to shift our focus onto how and why something is going well — that is empowering us to thrive. On this week’s Wellness Tip Wednesday I invite you to […]

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WELLNESS TIP WEDNESDAY: How to Stop a Bad Habit – Don’t Deprive, Replace

  Ever try to ‘willpower’ yourself into NOT doing something? You know, like stopping a not-so-healthy habit? How has that worked for you? It’s a nice intention, for example, to decide you’re going to stop getting that candy bar at the vending machine during an afternoon slump at work or stop staying up late bing-watching Netflix on a weeknight. But having an intention not to do something is rarely an empowering enough strategy to make a sustainable change. In fact, if the thing you’re trying to change has it’s own momentum, […]

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Limbering up your soul

  Danielle LaPorte has a powerful section in the workbook half of her inspiring book The Desire Map. It’s called Soul Limber. In it she poses a few strings of simple questions, prompts that have the effect of getting you out of your practical minded headspace. The invitation is to fill in the blanks from a deeper (gut, heart, soul) level. Those of us who are Desire Map facilitators often use Soul Limbering questions as a powerful warm up at the beginning of our Desire Map workshops. It’s one of […]

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The usefulness of Yay me! moments

  What went well for you this week? When I work with my coaching clients, that question is an important part of our conversations. Did it take a couple minutes for you to think of something? What if I asked you about what didn’t go so well? Went right to it, didn’t you? That’s why that first question is important. Important to ask first. A coach I once worked with adds a layer to that question that makes it even more powerful… she regularly asked me to connect it back […]

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My secret about why some resolutions stick & others fizzle out

  I admit it, I love January and all that new year intention setting energy. I’ve spent plenty of years writing down, in those first weeks, what I want to accomplish in the rest. Strategic plans and lists for the things I want to do, the new habits I want to commit to (again).   Sometimes I found myself riding the wave of a resolution the whole year through. Other resolutions – not so much. Here’s the huge secret I’ve come to realize about what sticks and why… The important […]

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