Limbering up your soul

Soul Limber

  Danielle LaPorte has a powerful section in the workbook half of her inspiring book The Desire Map. It’s called Soul Limber. In it she poses a few strings of simple questions, prompts that have the effect of getting you out of your practical minded headspace. The invitation is to fill in the blanks from a deeper (gut, heart, soul) level. Those of us who are Desire Map facilitators often use Soul Limbering questions as a powerful warm up at the beginning of our Desire Map workshops. It’s one of [...]

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The usefulness of Yay me! moments

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  What went well for you this week? When I work with my coaching clients, that question is an important part of our conversations. Did it take a couple minutes for you to think of something? What if I asked you about what didn’t go so well? Went right to it, didn’t you? That’s why that first question is important. Important to ask first. A coach I once worked with adds a layer to that question that makes it even more powerful… she regularly asked me to connect it back [...]

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My secret about why some resolutions stick & others fizzle out

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  I admit it, I love January and all that new year intention setting energy. I’ve spent plenty of years writing down, in those first weeks, what I want to accomplish in the rest. Strategic plans and lists for the things I want to do, the new habits I want to commit to (again).   Sometimes I found myself riding the wave of a resolution the whole year through. Other resolutions – not so much. Here’s the huge secret I’ve come to realize about what sticks and why… The important [...]

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My New Year Breakthrough

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  I am ready. Well, maybe I’m not. But heck, it’s a new year. And I actually love that new year energy of intention and commitment. So this year, I’ve decided to channel that energy toward something I don’t usually do. I’m going to follow Brian Johnson’s advice and sink into a ‘fire, ready, aim’ approach. When I first heard Brian talk about that concept as he summarized Jason Selk’s book, 10 Minute Toughness, oh boy, did the perfectionist in me bristle uncomfortably. I’m a thinker, a planner. Jumping right [...]

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Want Love and a Healthy Relationship? How you Answer these 3 Questions can be the Key

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Ah, to be in a relationship… with someone who is kind to you, with someone who genuinely enjoys your company, a partner in life who is supportive because they believe in you… Sound like something you want? Imagining how good that might make you feel? It does sound like a healthy relationship, doesn’t it? But does it really begin with finding the right person? Consider the possibility that your relationship with yourself is actually the key that determines the health (and longevity) of any committed relationship you want to be [...]

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This Year’s Reflections BEFORE New Year’s Resolutions

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I have to admit… I’m a big fan of the New Year season. I know, some folks aren’t. And understandably so. There’s often this ever present assumption, expectation even, that we should be always doing more, should be better. Resolutions can feel heavy rather than inspiring. That’s not what New Year’s time is for me. What I learned long ago is that “should” has never been an empowering or effective motivator.  And I definitely no longer view New Year goal setting through that lens. I’ve found there are much more stirring [...]

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Who Would You Be if You Released an Old Pattern?

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  Do you have those times in life where you just feel stuck? And not because you’re not trying, but in fact maybe – being in the mode of ‘trying so hard’ – you realize you’re actually getting in your own way? I can definitely relate. Like lots of folks I know, I’ve found myself living lately from a perfectionist place where I make everything more complex than it needs to be. There’s a lot of ‘wanting’ and even a good deal of detailed planning. But then there’s that elusive [...]

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